I’ve been doing a lot of visualization lately. Not just mentally seeing what I want to manifest but feeling it with every fiber of my being. But what happens when what you visualize fails to appear? You can see it. You can taste it! But what happens when three-dimensional reality hasn’t yet caught up to your perceived success?
You’ve by now no doubt heard about the guy who searches for years for the woman of his dreams and gives up looking, only to find her a few weeks later. Or the woman who for so long tries to get pregnant, adopts instead, and then becomes pregnant.
There seems to be an element of “letting go” to manifesting, doesn’t there? It’s like when we want something too badly, when we’re visualizing it and feeling it to such a degree that we hold on to it, it doesn’t appear. But when we give up, let go of it, something magical seems to happen. What we wanted for so long suddenly appears.
Here’s the quandary: If we really want something, if we really feel that burning desire, how do we let it go? You can’t just pretend to let it go, pretend to give up, because that’s not really letting it go, is it? So, what do you do?
The secret about working with energy is trusting The Universe. To do that you have to make the distinction between your job (visualizing what you want) and The Universe’s job (bringing it into reality).
So, you’re visualizing. You’re seeing it. You’re feeling it. But you’re a writer, right? It’s your job to make things plausible. So, you don’t just visualize what you want, you visualize how it happens. This agent is going to say yes! This editor is going to request the full manuscript! You follow along with the steps of attaining your success exactly as you would outlining a novel.
By doing this you’re breaking the rules. Bringing what you want into reality, the how part, is The Universe’s job. And so that agent doesn’t say yes, that editor doesn’t request the full manuscript, because that’s not how The Universe is going to make it happen. There is a better path ahead, you just can’t see it at the moment. But it’s out there.
Here’s the key: Trust. Don’t become attached to the how part. Get a rejection? Don’t give it another thought. That’s not how it is supposed to happen. Trust that The Universe knows the most effective time and means to bring what you want into reality. Refocus on the what, let The Universe take care of the how.
When you go into a restaurant and order food, you’re not worrying about if your order is going to arrive at the table, are you? You’re not focused on how the tomatoes are diced or how the vegetables are sautéed. You sit back, enjoy the company you’re with, and trust that the meal you’ve ordered has been successfully conveyed to the chef, and that before long it will be placed in front of you ready to consume.
This isn’t always easy. It takes practice. We’re writers. We want to want to make it believable, at least to ourselves, but resist the urge.
Brian Mercer is the author of the supernatural YA novel, Aftersight (Astraea Press, 2013). He is also co-author with Robert Bruce of Mastering Astral Projection: 90-Day Guide to Out-of-body (Llewellyn, 2004) and The Mastering Astral Projection CD Companion (Llewellyn, 2007). A board member of the Pacific Northwest Writers Association and senior editor at Author Magazine, he lives in Seattle with his wife, Sara, and their three cats.